Fwb said he doesn t want to hurt me. that he isn’t interested in a relationship with you.

Fwb said he doesn t want to hurt me that he isn’t interested in a relationship with you. wife (27F) said she doesn't want me becoming pregnant He still doesn't want a relationship because he said he isn't in the space to be a good boyfriend. We've been in an FWB relationship for almost seven years. And recently he hasn’t been as obsessed with me I've been jaded by too many casual relationships where I've said right at the outset that I don't want anything serious or a full on relationship, but we've somehow kinda slept-walked into something more serious (on their part), and then things subsequently turned very sour when I've realised what's happening and tried to end things, which often resulted in them giving me a I (27F) have an FWB relationship (37M) and he doesn’t want me to move on. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. But I’ve seen how he still isn’t loyal. But now, I just feel confused at the "effort" he puts in to keep me in his life when he doesn't want a relationship with me. If something happened at work that you brought up last time you were together, he will do a follow up question. I ignored it and kissed him to get him to stop talking. You have to know that he's lost the will to fight and that any reasoning with him is only going to make things worse. Last night she sent me a text telling me she doesn't think she can be friends with me anymore. Then he gave a mixed answer saying we are more than friends but doesn't want me to be hurt in the end, which I perceive as he can't commit for whatever reasons. But he cares about me alot and wants me to still be in his life. It's going to give him more power he doesn't need and force him to tell you that no means no. I wanted him to prove to me he isn’t gonna cheat on me and all he does is hurt me. He is giving you a warning. I let him know that I didn't want to sleep with anyone else and I wanted to be exclusive, he said no and I got quite because i was upset. Believe him. Only FWB. He hurt me big time by dating her when he knew that’s all I wanted. When asked if he misses me, he . But by letting the thoughts fester inside your mind, you will only think the worst. . No matter how "sweet", "understanding," "kind" he has been. But I now get that he is hurt because he feels like he has to give up on what we have. That’s because he just doesn’t see you as a priority—and if he’s never told you he’s your boyfriend, he has all right to do He's blocked me. I feel like I’ve lost all of that. That being said, he's not like this just with me, he is like this with i (25f) have been with my fwb (30m) for about 8. God made a away. 😒 Dont do it until u trust them & dont trust someone u barely know. Go get tested for any STIs. He can either be happy in the FWB category or change himself to meet her boyfriend standards 4. He doesn't stick anything into anything unless I've come first. it’s probably for the best this ends because you are way too invested in this dude and it was never going to end well if he didn He doesn’t respond to your texts. It also secures a backup girlfriend in case his “post you” dating escapades don’t work out. He doesn’t seem interested in an official relationship, but he’s quite happy to keep you around. I don’t understand. He might be into you and want more or he might not but when you ask you risk the status I stopped doing all sorts of mental gymnastics and making excuses to convince myself that there was still hope, that there was a chance that he would eventually tell me he wanted to be my boyfriend and I'm finally free. It felt good to talk to him at first because I had missed him, too. I want to still see him because I like him! Besides, if I ignore my feelings, he's the perfect FWB! But at the same time, I feel like I should find another FWB instead where I can have fun with without getting hurt. Maybe he loves you as he’s said but it doesn’t matter - he does not want a relationship with you. He wanted to give me the opportunity to explore my sexuality without fear of judgement or rejection. He told me to let him know if I start having sex with someone else. This means that the FWB doesn't want to talk about the other guy at all. Feelings were not supposed to get involved and I pursued this relationship for the sex. Sometimes these things happen and it is the risk everyone takes when they do the FWB thing. I let it go, because he still didn't want a relationship and I do. Then he said he needs time to tell, I thought it's been 3 months I'm not waiting around for you to suddenly get feelings. She tells me she loves me and misses me and we’ve hung out a few times but there are other times where she’s distant tells me we aren’t getting back together and cancels our plans last minute or ghosts me. Reply reply More replies. You are a Fwb, he doesn’t owe you anything or need to give you an explanation. This addiction of yours sounds like it's getting worse and obviously leading you to make some really bad decisions. He requested, I responded in kind, then he dumped me via text after a few days of silence. The sex is the best i've ever had (i bottomed for the first time with him), and he would be the ideal boyfriend for me. She says when she asked he just simply said it just doesn’t do anything for him. I was in a very similar situation (met his family, he invited me to a wedding etc etc) but he just wouldn't He told me that implies we're a thing and we aren't. Need help with your relationship? Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or A few months go by and I get a text from the second guy saying he regret the things he said (not that he didn't want a relationship, but that he wouldn't hang out anymore because I didn't want sex). You're just feeding into how I feel about all men. However, he never made much of an effort when we were lovers and so I think it would be foolish of me to think it would be any different now. He likes you, enjoys the company/sex, but that doesn’t mean he has to want a relationship just because he does these gestures. He said he doesn't want to hurt me because if things don't work out, I have suffered enough. He physically and verbally tells me how attracted he is to me and I do my best to return the attention. He doesn't enjoy sex all that much and even told him it was getting kinda stale. He ghosts, kind of, but he always comes up with a reason for it. We all know that FWB situations require careful consideration and communication from both parties to make it work. But then he asked me if I want to have a day-out with him tmr. Only his mother, his other two male friends, and his mother's boyfriend. You have feelings for him and if you try to 'go super slow' without him agreeing to it, you're just going to get hurt. It started hurting me when it happened and because he I was a pain in the ass because of my own problems and he have shown me he cares in every ways when he could’ve just block me. There are a million examples of men who claimed they didnt want anything serious, then became ultra serious when they met the girl of their dreams. He doesn’t just send those vague answers, he engages in the conversations and gives what he got when it comes to expressing opinions. TL;DR (he said it first). Accepting being set up with your FWB's best friend knowing that he doesn't know the nature of your relationship is sketchy on So FWB requires a few things for it to work out. It’s like he doesn’t want to let you go, but he doesn’t want to fully commit either. If he doesnt reach out, either he doesnt feel regret, or he has the EQ of a potato. Update: I message him a long ass letter detailing all my feelings, how I actually cared for him, how he hurt me even if he doesn't realized it, I said sorry on how I treated him at times and I said thank you that he ended it because I couldn't do it myself. I feel like I'm in a similar situation. I think you know what you want to do. 9. He kept wanting to get me to hook up with him and I usually don’t hook up plus I want a relationship so I declined a lot at first but I agreed eventually. Now i know he doesnt feel the same, even if he is attracted to me and enjoys my company, I know he doesnt want to date me. You have to ask yourself whether you're jealous because you want more, or whether you just don't like hearing about him with other girls. The sex was really good and he made me feel safe. This guy might not be ready to let you see what he thinks about you, or he might be trying to deny his feelings for you because of a huge number of reasons! Either way, if he’s doing his best to not catch your eye, it’s a pretty clear sign he’s into you and doesn’t want you to know. He used to text me a ton but doesn't really answer me anymore besides when Im asking to hang out. And i know he’s seeing other girls yet he told me he doesn’t want me to see other guys. he’s not interested in being in a relationship with you. Archived post. He says he "doesn't want a relationship" but again idk what any other person would call what we are doing and I've also asked him how a "relationship" would look different from what we are doing and he can't give me a straight answer to that question either. Asking him about his feelings would be okay if he was your boyfriend. Apparently I'm not as beautiful as he says I am. Since then I've had great dates with him, where we talk about how nice it is we have honesty and openness and can be ourselves , I met one more friend to which he said "looks like you're 2 for 2" in that both of them like me. So last night after he made me dinner when i came to his we somehow got into this conversation about "us" after 10 months he said he doesn't want a relationship he wasn't ready to "settle down". 5 months now. He told me he as and as also been physically abused by his stepdad. Chalk this up as a lesson learned- don't make this same mistake again- and just let him go. He doesn’t have to hurt your feelings in his mind because he still wants to be friends. As I know he’s not seeing anyone atm. We lasted April 2022-January 2023, and then February 6th, he said he had a girlfriend. Tell him you don’t want an FWB relationship, but you want a real commitment, a true love. Now him and I believe both have feelings, to the point where he doesn’t want to lose me. And that he doesn't see me as just a piece of meat to screw like others guys have kept showing me I am. Better to know the truth and use that as solid ground to get up and move on. Obviously I find him very sexy otherwise I wouldn't have asked about FWB. Ultimately, if a guy feels that he doesnt want to lose you. Thanks for the tips man! It just sucks that I'm a hopeless romantic, so this shit gets me hurt He said he's leaving the decision to me. He could be having a flare up or something and just doesn't want you to know about it. They were talking about me and friend's gf, and their sex lives basically. They all just want to use me for sex and that's all they see me as good for. If you want more, I would ask yourself "how long am I going to wait until he's ready for more?" Set a date What does it mean when a guy doesn’t want to label a relationship? It could be a red flag for many reasons when a guy acts like a boyfriend but doesn’t want the title. I could immediately see he was serious because he looked very hurt. Also, IMO guys who say they dont want to be in a relationship just havent met the person they want to be with. So should I stay tied to a guy that doesn’t want to date me just because we have Yeah, exactly. However I will hold off on saying that part unless he doesn’t reciprocate my feelings. Also, to me it shows he's not boyfriend material and is not serious with dating in general, like, he'd be pursuing someone else for a relationship that he is allegedly after and casually Sounds like your FWB wasn't phased by this, which says a lot. Sounds like he doesn't have any respect for you if he's ok with you fucking his roommate. If he doesn’t want to commit to you, he will probably let you walk away after the ultimatum, and you need to be ready for this. He wants to feel comfy and still have what he decided he wants - distance from you. * I didnt mind this at first and slept with someone else. He doesn't try to be mean to me on purpose and I have been a little overly sensitive about some of the things he says. During a somewhat slurred string of endearments (unusual to begin with), I could swear he said I love you. I kept asking questions and he got angry again, He told me he's being super patient with me and any other guy would have ghosted me by now. He said he didn't want that type of a relationship. Sometimes, when a man doesn’t kiss you, it may not necessarily be a bad thing. Here Thing is, I'm totally in love with him. He said that I "make him feel like a million dollars and that he likes me so much. My ex wants to be friends, says I'm very important to him and he doesn't want to lose me. We had both said that what we have is a FWB arrangement and that the friendship matters a lot to both of us. Consider it an opportunity to focus on yourself and your own goals: One positive aspect of being ignored by your FWB is that it gives you an opportunity to focus on yourself and your own goals. He could be using you for financial or sexual reasons. Also read: 50 Signs your fwb doesn’t like you. So I got the hint. We ended up hooking up and he stayed the night for almost 3 nights in a row and then went on what was supposed to be our original “date Honestly reading this it doesn’t sound like a FWB situation. It sounds like you have either grown emotionally attached to him, and want something more, or you're a hypocrite who only wants him when he's moving on. 3. From the beginning I knew he slept with his best friend (which has been happening monthly for about 6 years). However, that does not mean that he wont change his mind The biggest take away from your post is that you want more from your FWB, and he doesn't. I suggest you hear it loud and clear. Either he felt he was getting too attached to you and realized you weren't interested in him that way or he thought you were getting too attached. Or she could have misrepresented. This being said, it is because he doesn’t want to live the life you had together at the moment. No arguments. I know it's hard but you need to not let yourself get drawn in. Granted, I know that sometimes life When a man tells you he doesn’t want to hurt you, he is telling you he doesn’t want to be responsible for your heart. You've fallen in love with your FWB. Its more of a relationship with one party deciding to not progress with physical intimacy yet, it sounds like he's mature enough to recognize that when he gets physical it messes with his emotional balance and that has caused him to inadvertently hurt people in the past. Again I explained that we are not and we'll never be a couple so he shouldn't tie himself like that, he said he knows and that I'm allowed to do whatever I want, he just decided that for himself. He will try to slyly bring it in to the conversation like it just popped into his head, but he remembe Whether you are the dumpor or the dumpee, break ups are just plain unpleasant and painful. Lol the issue of me asking him is that I can't Rmr where or in what context he said it in. Your feelings aren't part of the equation. Exactly! If he doesn't want to do his part, no wonder she walked out My FWB is the same way. 4. You don't seem all that broken up about it. A few weeks ago while we were making out he told me he wanted to wait until he could do me in a bed all night long. If you’re in a situation where a guy seems to be really into you, but he doesn’t want a relationship but wants to be friends, it can be confusing and frustrating. Anyways last night I told him be honest why he won’t date me and I’ll stop talking to him if he doesn’t tell me (I wouldn’t have) and he basically told So I took the advice in the original post advice and didn't say anything further to her. 95 votes, 144 comments. I'm free from the anxiety of waiting for his texts, waiting to see if he'll make plans with me for this week, watching out for the tiniest signs that he wants anything (21F)(22M) My fwb doesn’t want me to see other guys but he’s seeing other girls and I have feelings for him . Knowing him, he would feel bad about hurting my feelings if he knew I liked him and he didn’t like me back. He said he doesn’t have many friends and doesn’t talk to many people. What may cause you to question his intentions is if he doesn’t act like it and you suspect he’s not being genuine. He said he's different. And that he doesn’t want to live with anyone ever again. You are not stupid, worthless, or undesirable if TLDR: Ended things amicably with my FWB, but I want to block him on instagram. He said he'll show me how a guy should treat me. Not because I love him, because he would have just broken one of the only uncomplicated things in my life. We would spend a lot of time cuddling and chatting afterwards too, which felt pretty intimate. He always tells me he misses me when we hangout and that FWBs can't do certain things, such as cuddling, snuggling, kissing or hanging out (movies, dinner), but we still do it He's opening up to me more about himself and just seems more attentive. He doesn't want a relationship with you, because he isn't that into you. I found that he was having sex with me to have sex, me being there was just Everything happened really fast. I asked him to make me cum and he said sorry I’m too tired . He doesn't want to settle down while he's there and would prefer to just play the field while he can. What happened here? If you really don't want a relationship the best thing would be to cut out the fwb, if he already has the feels and has made them clear to you, keeping a neutral relationship that's nothing more than sex is going to basically be impossible for him, he will always be wanting more and continuing the sex will never give him the opportunity to move on. Can confirm, also feelings tend to take some time to develop (months at least for me), you do physical things with a FWB rather than emotionally bonding, and FWB situations seldom last more than a few months, either because you or they find someone you want to be in a relationship with and end things, or because one of you moves away, or To which he said yes. What he means: He is either really not ready or he doesn’t think you are the one, when he says “who knows what might happen in the future,’ this is his way of trying not to completely break your heart so he gives you any sort of false hope That is not what you want. All the extra stuff he keeps tossing out there is a little confusing. He says I’m the first girl that has rejected him so much. He said “I can’t be a bf to you right now”And, that he wasn’t emotionally or mentally stable enough to date. He doesn't want a relationship. Which, is something he specifically said he wanted me to do in one of our prior talks. Time and again he would mention 'as a friend'. He doesn’t want me to wait, I have been crying non stop doesn’t matter how much he said he also feel the same way but can’t give me what I I eventually admitted as much, and he said he was happy with what we've got and didn't want it to change. A month from now you're going to do another update asking "how do I break up with my FWB without hurting her, she's gotten very attached and it's causing problems". When I was still a minor a guy gave me booze, I didnt have much as he didnt have patience, said he would only give me oral, no piv. To me, this just kind of feels like a cop out and he's seeing someone else and he thinks saying that will soften the blow. He tells me that I'm a very attractive girl and that its not that he doesn't want to, but he knows that it wouldnt end well. It still reads to me more of a feeling on her part than manipulation, where she said he doesn’t like to, it seemed her words, an assumption for his lack of. I don’t think he would take it the wrong way. We hit it off, he’s my type to a T and we both agreed to be FWB (he’s polyamorous too) So after our last meeting a few weeks ago, I realize I may start to like him because he loves physical affection after sex and would often cuddle me, kiss my forehead, whisper sweet nothings etc. He doesn't want to pursue a relationship with you and you need to stop hoping for more. He sounds like the typical university guy/girl. That is a situation guaranteed to hurt and frustrate you. In fact our last meet up was the best yet as far as connecting. He completely rejected the idea, and said he doesn’t really want to stay friends. But I realised after that I actually wanted to date the first guy and thought it best to be open and honest. He has said he doesn't want to date and you deserve better. I called my FWB and told him the situation and said that I can’t see him this way anymore, but I would be down to stay as friends (and just game together in the future since that was our main mutual interest). Sounded more like you were in a one sided relationship while he had a fwb. OP doesn’t sound like she thinks her FWB is the best she can get she literally just hooked up with someone else. It’s really starting to make me sad and it feels like my heart breaks every time we talk about it, but I don’t want to tell him cause I want him to talk to me He may be naturally expressive, but doesn’t want more. but i thought ‘if he wanted to, he would’ve by now’. He may be seeing some else, has his eye on someone else or may just want to be seen as a young free and single guy out on the town with his mates, he doesn't want you spoiling that. The thing is, i kind of do i just don't know if it could work, and he always tells me he doesn't want a relationship with anyone, i also know that he does speak to other girls & the only reason i don't think i could be with him in a commited relationship is because he openly admitted to me he used to cheat on his ex, he's very open with me and he told me he wouldn't cheat on someone he I get ya. Apparently I'm not the best he's ever had in bed. I don't think he knows his jokes hurt my feelings. Afterwards said it was great & didnt I enjoy it. He was the dumper, and wasn’t sure if we should because he was worried about feelings resurfacing but I was under the impression I meant nothing to him, so. g he told me he can’t trust me because I reached out to him on a secondary account to seek Do you feel a little hurt that he doesn't want more? He said he doesnt want more than to be FWB. Each time he held me tight and said he doesn’t want to let me go. I asked him if his mother knew that he and I were friends and he said yes. Here are 13 undeniable signs he doesn’t feel guilty for hurting you, along with our recommendations on what to do when you decide to stay or go away from them after this. my FWB asked me on a date and I laughed in his face. I can tell that she doesn't know what she wants and is afraid of commitment. But honestly, you need to get some help. I’ll reach out to him first and will ask about being friends. I found that he was having sex with me to have sex, me being there was just Your FWB often changes their behavior or makes promises they don’t keep, leaving you feeling confused or hurt. Instead of constantly worrying about why your FWB is not responding, take the time to invest in Girl i wont insult you but im just gonna say that this what you did hurts him and he probably feels pretty bad about it and that's it. " after he said that I felt crushed. The asshole he is should be enough. 11M subscribers in the relationship_advice community. It could be for a range of reasons, so you don’t need to panic! There are ways you can tackle this issue and move forwards – together! Question - (21 March 2013) : 7 Answers - (Newest, 21 March 2013): A female age 30-35, anonymous writes: I started talking to this boy I like who is in one of my university classes. I ended things when I left. And, that “he would only be good for sx” I didn’t argue and agreed I He just stopped calling and texting a week ago. He said that this is what he meant when he said I was young and immature and he doesn't want to deal with my juvenile emotions. During certain life stages, it can be particularly Your fwb doesn't want you like that. And he doesn't want to hurt me if I end up falling in love with him and he doesn't. Also, in the interest of good sexual health I thought he had a right to know. He has a problem with communication. Instead of beating your brains over what he means when he says he doesn’t want to hurt you, listen to what the expert says and save yourself the heartache. This is possible and it’s also possible your insecurities are getting the best of you. He makes fun of my crooked nose, bad cooking, taste in TV shows, and If that’s the case with both of you, then he doesn’t want you to get hurt and it’s a good thing. OR his friend actually He doesn't want to be seen out with you as he is, sorry to say, not proud of you. I'm hurt and it's made me realise I do like him alot more than I want to admit and honestly the idea of dating someone I trust so much and makes me feel so safe is really appealing. You are his fwb, NOT his gf. Doesn’t take too long to reply. I'm not sure I can handle it. I told him how I feel and he doesn’t reciprocate, but idk what’s going on in his head bc he says he doesn’t have feelings for me and yet gets mad and jealous when I start talking to other men. I know he can't proceed due to family commitments. Last week, he was driving and saw me, so he texted me and asked if I wanted to grab lunch. Having the talk and creating distance was his way of trying not to hurt you further. He doesn't want to talk to me and I need advice about how to And that he wants me to have the attention I deserve because he is a bad texter. It was pretty terrible to hear that. Seeing that he is not up for it, then he doesn’t count. She literally said " let's have a break and see what happens afterwards". You need to be honest with him. He engages in the conversations. If you feel like this might describe your current boyfriend or current crush, here are a few telltale signs he’s too nice to tell you he’s not interested. When he says he is not ready for a relationship but who knows what might happen in the future. the moment you are confused, just leave. Next day I sent a really long message to him accusing him all the stuff he did to hurt me, and at the end I told him "thanks for giving me a lesson and I don't Oh my gosh. It may be to protect your own interest for the 10 reasons he likes you but doesn’t want a relationship. Meaning he won’t leave you waiting 5 or 6 hours for a reply. He says he knows that he's going to hurt me because he's in a bad headspace and that sex is never just sex and someone always gets hurt in the end and he wouldnt wanna ruin the friendship that we have. They don’t respect your boundaries: If your FWB doesn’t respect your boundaries or tries to pressure you into doing something you’re not comfortable with, it could be a sign that they are manipulating you. He doesn't turn me down because he doesn't want to hurt me and it sometimes feels like a chore. He wants to fix it on his terms. He left soon after - I had been expecting him to stay longer and I think he left because he was upset. He was also a little drunk. Share Just because you’re FWB doesn’t mean you have to see each other regularly. We were sharing stuff about our childhoods, etc. wife (27F) said she doesn't want me becoming pregnant through IVF because she doesn't want 'a man's cum in me' and I'm really It doesn't change the reality that you're on two different pages, with him knowing that you're madly in love with him, and him taking all the benefits that come from a FWB relationship. But what do I know? It could be read differently. 5. He doesn't want to lose you - of course not! he knows what a prize you are! - but he's not willing - or able - to give you what you want from him either. He said he doesn't see a future with me. He sensed you were likely to become emotionally invested. He’s the only person I’ve been with who hasn’t assaulted me. I said, why, aren't we just having fun? And he gave me this whole speech about how he "actually thinks I'm beautiful, cool, etc. And lately when i told her that i want to part ways, she insisted that she doesn't want to let go of me. * But he wasn't happy. Let it go. But if you are not, tell him what you really want. He said from the start he wasn’t ready to date and not to fall for him, yet he made it difficult NOT to fall for him. Can you please give me some advice? Thank you! exactly, its not uncommon and fairly obvious what was going to happen, she didnt see it, the guy told her he doesnt want a girlfriend and is actively dating more than one girl, her feelings tell her to want someone who doesnt want her, which was said and expressed explicitly, she doesnt know jack shit about herself or this guy (and still FWB is usually a disaster in the making, and almost never works (talking from experience). I’m just so hurt because he wants to be in a relationship just not with me Apparently he doesn’t have romantic feelings towards me, he went out of town for the week and won’t be back until Thursday, he left on Friday And he’s called/FaceTimed me every night and texts me all day long We say good morning and good night every day, we kiss each other upon arrival and I’ve got a long term on and off FWB and if he said I love, depending on the day I’ve had, I would probably burst into tears to. She said that what I did made her very uncomfortable and that she's not attracted to me and doesn't know what made me ask her that. What confuses me is he said he doesn’t want to complicate things so he wants to stop having sex. So he just needs to pick a struggle cause sitting and complaining about not getting what you want while not putting in effort to make it happen ain’t it. The feelings aren't there. Me and him [] I really don’t think he does and I feel like we don’t have a relationship like that, we don’t know eachother that well, we started texting last year for a few weeks and we were fwb, life happened and we didn’t rly talk for about a yr and a few months and we started texting again last week and last night he said “oh btw I love you ️ “ in text after I went to sleep, we are already Yes it can hurt to think someone doesn't recipricate your feelings. Why he doesn’t invite you over He started with FWB which was new for me and I couldn't take it. TLDR: My fwb is really intimate when we hang out and I want to text him more. Now after well over half a year of no contact with the first guy, he texted me The Patterson Street (FWB) Church don’t own any rights to the music and songs whether in background. FWB can be a good set up for some people, but it usually doesn't work out long term. So offering me fwb, knowing what I'm after something else and that he's not ready to meet my needs for whatever reason - it just doesn't seem right to me. Now, I am confused. He doesn't want you to do better than him and he doesn't want you to even like somebody else. true. He could like the relationship but doesn’t want to commit So I met this guy about 2 months ago. it's just hard for him to think of himself as a father at 26. We were developing feelings for sure. We matched on an app when I was looking for someone to have a threesome with me and my bf. But, he told me (after all that happened ) that he didn’t want to date his first year of college. Yes the first thing he said when I told him my feeling was I don't feel that way only on occasion have I felt romantic feelings with you. When he said he wanted more, I was the 'bad guy' who had to say 'but I don't want more'. If he says this, it usually means he’s having emotional problems and is contemplating Sometimes you’re dating someone really nice but the spark just isn’t there. She's already attached to you, she's going with your rules because she doesn't want to lose you. 10. Its not really friendzoning if he's exclusive with her and doesn't try for FwB though. My ex FWB was the latter, and he was toxic. I didn't want to casually date in the middle of corona, so I told him I didn't want to keep dating. Also on top of that you come across as very clingy, texting every day, worrying if he’s sleeping with another girl etc etc. He thinks you're attractive, but Oh absolutely. His only response was that he already decided he wont be sleeping with anyone else, and that it's up to me what I want to do. If a guy tells you he doesn't want to hurt you, this is most likely a sign that a break He doesn't call you when he says he will. He will commit. As much as I’d want to be fwb, I think it might just hurt me in the long run if He has issues with communication he was married and he says he doesn’t want to get married again. He said he didn’t mind. They don't want to see other people but they also aren't willing/able to meet the emotional needs of a relationship He told me he lied to me because every time he told me she texted him I got really mad and he didn't want me to be mad anymore but didn't know how to handle the whole situation. It’s fucks with his ego that as he said he doesn’t find you attractive he doesn’t However he has chosen to “make it clear” that we can only be friends while at the same time trying to be sexual with me everyday and trying to make me jealous, and leaving me suddenly by giving me confusing reasons while blaming me for everything (e. we’ve had a pretty open dialogue in terms of communicating if we’re hooking up/talking with others and for myself i haven’t really hooked up with other people apart from him whereas he has hooked up with quite a few people. You asked, he’s said he doesn’t want more, sooooo I’m not sure what the question is? I had a FWB last for 9 months. He can still reach out to you afterward, but he will probably let you go to see if you are for real. Don't think "this means he wants more. Or you ask your questions and risk losing your FWB. Matthew assures In a relationship, a man’s statement of “I don’t want to hurt you” can indicate that he is uncertain about the relationship’s future. about a month and a half ago he told me he dropped his roster as he was feeling burnt out and He said if he wants to be with me. You can’t just threaten to leave to get someone to realize that you’re serious about leaving; you have to Just horrible experiences and I felt like I was just making myself depressed. The things like cuddling and sappy stuff are fun and the best parts of a relationship, she probably doesn't want to deal with the serious commitment that comes with it- But now, knowing how he's been treating me, I don't want to hookup with him anymore. It might have been 3-4 dates ago. (Edited to fix the garbled #2. Like when it starts out as a relationship and eventually regresses into a glorified FWB. TBH it sounds like she wants the benefits of a relationship without having to put in the work that they take. MORE: Unmistakable Signs Your Ex Misses You Don’t look at his past behavior. We both said we didn’t want anything serious, met up ~4 times (during the weekends) and the sex was really good. Then I I was kind of hinting to him that I want to officially be his girlfriend soon. He doesn't even like talking to his IF he feels compelled to talk to you (even as just friends) or express regret in his actions or lack thereof, he will do so, and maybe talking it out will be healthy at that time. We live in the same neighborhood though. He doesn't like how it turned out for him. I ended it over time as I wanted to be serious or nothing, but not "really" ready to let her go. Narc or not, he's already hurting you and damaging how you view yourself. Last time I asked if something changed, its because he's overwhelmed with work. " Unless you ask him, and he says he wants more, don't read more into this action. oops). A few weeks back, he asked me if I ever thought of dating him, which I said I did before, but now not anymore. We have never been friends in the past. She told me she doesn't want to be in relationship with anyone. FWB gives him everything he wants (free access to NSA sex, no commitment, no relationship obligations, the ability to see others He just doesn’t want to be with me, it really hurts because he considers me his best friend so he wants to talk about all these girls that he really likes and can see himself with. Either way the ball has been thrown into his court, and you're better off regardless. He told me he doesn't have many friends and that he doesn't talk to many people. FWB is all about the convenience until someone else comes along. Reply I talked to his brothers gf and she said he's talked about not wanting to leave even though he thinks i might want him to. I said yes, we caught up at a cafe, and a few days later, I invited him to my place. Id say no. But definitely do the first one. It needs honest conversations from both sides to discuss things like boundaries etc, a friendship, and mutual respect between the two. There are a few options: Talk to him, decide you both want to be together, and become a couple. FWB is about getting what you want. He makes me feel so amazing and I know I don't need exclusivity or labels to enjoy what we have, but it You are only going to be hurting yourself with vain hopes that you can eventually be together because he occasionally does nice relationship-y things for you. Listen to your feelings! Why does he only want to be FWB but treats me like we are dating? I (19F) met my friend (22M) on bumble a couple weeks ago, and he seemed very eager for us to hang out, so we hung out almost immediately. You know exactly that that's going to happen. I love him I do and also willing to wait as I need to work on myself. He left you. And you know what happen if you get involved with a guy like that? You only end up hurt, unless you are also ready for it. He texted me every day up until then. The thing is, I'm fairly certain he doesn't love me, or feel anything even close. He said he still wanted to talk in person which of course I agreed we should do, but something always came up this week to where he couldn’t meet. From what i can tell, she doesn't want to lose the perks of having me as a He said he doesnt want a relationship with me right now but does relationship things . My best friend said he knew this girl who felt the same way about online dating, had some really bad experiences and was perfect for me. men play games like that and will keep you guessing. I reiterated that I'm not wanting anything more than what he's currently giving He got way more involved and attached than I did, but I was the one who called it off as I saw he was getting attached and I didn't want to hurt someone like that. He's seeing someone else. He could be keeping his options open to date, other people. Idk if it’ll happen again. He moved to NY in 2018 (he’s from England) and since then we’ve seen each other every other week. He also said that some day I'll want to sleep with someone else and he doesn't want to get hurt like that. " (I know I am) and he doesn't want it to end with hurt feelings. Reply reply More replies More replies. It really doesn't matter what his feelings are about this. If a guy you dated or liked said he doesn't see a future with you, you have to take the guy seriously. When I was in a compromising position, he raped me. Your feelings should matter to him, but sometimes When you're seeking a partner, or even just new friends, it can be wise to know some of the potential clues that a person might be drama-prone. However, he told me he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, but he gets jealous when I express interest in other men. She had a reaction because you're her friend and you are both lovers and she cares about you as a human He said to me that he thinks things are going to end badly between us. It’s very easy for a guy to say he misses you. I am wildly attracted to him, and he is to me. He has said he doesn't want to be in a relationship because he "doesn't want to answer to anyone". After a little soul searching, I decided as long as I could take him down from a Potential Partner category in my brain and into a proper FWB category, we could keep being friends who occasionally fuck around. TLDR: I [31f] was dumped recently by FWB [24M] that had mutually progressed to more--not major feels, but enough to want to make another step to something more serious. It doesn’t seem like he has respect for you, like you said everything is on his terms. He was my first kiss and the person I lost my virginity to and now those memories have been completely tarnished. I want to be FWB for now as we are both about to start a new program that is going to last almost two years and will be very busy for a real relationship. trust me. I told him that I can`t trust him anymore and that I think he will only be more sneaky from now on to make sure I won`t find his texts anymore. He then proceeded to ask me what we were and I said FWBs. he’s not gonna tell you that he doesn’t want a relationship bc he doesn’t want to lose the benefits of you. It makes me think he was never really THAT into me in the first place or he would be putting in an effort to try and meet in person to talk but I’m starting to think that’s not going to happen. She doesn't want serious relationship with me. Then this morning, he was really affectionate. The whole point of FWB is that people don't want the other person asking them about feelings-period. He then said it was fine and it was a stupid idea anyway. He’s flirting but not following through. becomes defensive and will invalidate me further when I try to express that he has hurt me (23F) Im a guy and I 100% agree with what you said, he doesnt sound like he is worth OP's time He doesn’t want YOU to find anyone better. Each time I see him now he initiates physical touch. About two weeks after our breakup I reached out to an old FWB that I had to cut off due to problems she was causing with my relationship. I want you to realize what you said, "what's wrong with me" "why doesn't he want to be with me" he's tearing down your self esteem and you are just letting it happen. so it would almost sound silly to bring it But I am still upset that he used to tell me we were just FWB, and that he said he didn’t want a relationship because he didn’t want to deal with my unpredictable mood swings. He thinks I'm being greedy and that he The way we talk to each other is super direct and he’s not offended easily. tpbuz xcyv mrguzw pdwqj igkcou ajidqck wkdop ogga fjfix smhr